Red flag, if he balks at that request. At first I thought that was a crazy idea. But, I get it now. Thanks very much for your response Sparkle. Your story is so familiar! I also read your flashback about the ER visit. Funny how those flashes keep coming back to haunt us. They serve as a reminder to leave ACs alone. Believe me I have many flashbacks myself. Sounds like the guy you were involved with was a piece of work also. So for a person like my Mr.
U I was ripe for the picking. Best of luck to you.
I had a flashback this morning regarding something my exAC told me. We were in his truck, returning from a day trip to the beach.
Out of the blue, he says. Oh did I tell you the crazy way I met an exGF? I took my daughter to the ER and she was a nurse. She was good looking. I got the courage to call her a few days later. She asked me when I was going to fix her up with my friends. I told her I was interested. She said your married, so no thanks. I told her I was getting separated soon. It took 1 month but finally she caved. I dated her a year then kicked her to the curb, cuz I reconciled with the exWife. I said, well this is what generally what happens when a girl gets involved with a married man.
I wanted to jump out of the truck. His arrogance was nauseating. He semmed proud of his conquest and no empathy. This story just confirms how important it is to have strong boundaries and stay away from men who are obviously unavailabe. The end result is always disappointment and heartbreak. This should have been the major red flag as I look back on it all now that he made excuses that she would make life hell with access arrangements and was scared of her.
I was there to hold his hand through the difficult times but all I got was crumbs. During the relationship he had been texting other women, going on chat forums and escort websites for ego stroking. But I was too soft to kick him to the curb, as I made excuses with him bring depressed and struggling with the divorce. It got so bad he stop communicating with me and when I asked what was happening I got nothing! Any way we broke up and went into NC, then 6 weeks later I get a text asking my expert opinion on something!
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But got no thanks or even asked how I was!! Then said he wanted to be on his own, which my reply was he should have said rather than string me along! Selfish AC… Then two months later I see him out on a date with someone!!
A complete slap in the face!! You end up with crumbs in the end. I was totally drained from the experience. I started dating again and was charmed by a widower, but recently learned his wife passed away only a year ago. To tell you the truth, even though she was an amazing woman, the Tales of Yore started to bore me. Let someone else comfort him. Swissmiss, Yes you can never compete with the dead.
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I once heard that line in a film and it stuck forever. This was a Helena Bonham-Carter film about a couple who become friends with a rich heiress, he woos her, only the heiress dies and he finds himself madly in love with her even though he was only after her money in the first place. So the couple breaks up eventually. Hi SwissMiss, And if they are older widowers, then they have financial agendas they are protecting.
If they had to divvy-up the stuff in the divorce they tend to be pretty protective of their nest egg, and home. Plus, there is factor of his children. All so complicated, seriously, it is easier for us to develop and be happy in our own lives without these men. At my age, divorced is my only real option. What worries me are the multiply divorced. Is it that the dude does not do well in a marriage due to some personality issues or was he just unlucky?
My dad was divorced 3x and the reason was definitely the former. Good lessons in how not to be.
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I really listen to how the ex is talked about. Yep, if it was all her fault, if he accepts no part in the failure of the marriage, time to run away fast. There really is no time limit on getting over it; I dated someone who divorced in and still was angry about it. Some newly divorced had their marriages die a long time ago.
I too worry about the end of my marriage and whether I am over it. Partially because of the circumstances; we never fell out of love, I had to leave to find work.
Partially because my ex is a wonderful, intelligent, socially aware person and most men I have met since do not come even close to what he is. I am no longer physically attracted to him but I do miss the meaningful companionship. I realize I was really lucky with my ex husband and that maybe I ought to just give up.
Obviously we broke up for a reason, namely problems neither of us had the skills or maturity to resolve. He will never get closure, she, if truly a narc, is incapable of such. He needs to fish or cut bait, period.